The Empathic Teachers
Empathic Teachers carefully study the values, and beliefs around them. They are reactive, driven to learn every side of the story, filling in blanks and understanding the people around them. ETs are always decoding the messages around them, studying symbols, actions, and words carefully to find out their meaning. This makes them complex listeners – they are more interested in what you don’t say, than what you do say. When they can develop these skills, they can surprise people with their insight into others motives, values, and desires. ETs are cooperative and adaptable and they try hard to be of service to the people around them.
ETs are strongly shaped by what is beautiful, what is pleasant, and what is natural. They are driven to be hopeful, good, and ethical. They seek to build a unique character and a place in their community. Sensitive to others reactions and experiences, they can read in a lot, and being so flexible and adaptable, they are constantly relating themselves to others, learning about how they differ from and relate to others. They tend to be avid readers, seeking insight and knowledge from stories, movies, and other’s actions.
They are fascinated by stories, dreams, and the thought of travel and experience. They have a thirst for experience and pleasure seeking, seeking warmth, harmony, recreation, and the comfortable, and in this pursuit, they can sometimes try overly hard to adapt to their partner or outside expectations. Because of this, they may often feel a need to pull away those they feel are unpleasant, in order to heal, and build their own identity. As they tend to go through many changes throughout their life, they may sometimes begin to wonder what their true self is. Truth it, they are all of it, nobody has the self-awareness that empathic teachers tend to gather over the years. Their uncertainty is a key strength of their personality, because they spend so much time analyzing what the right choice is, they know what the right choice is, better than anyone. This can make them invaluable to others, who seek to know the right course forward, ETs are often acting as advisors, therapists, and consultants to others.
The primary emotions for an Empathic Teacher are shame, appreciation, fear and curiosity. It is key to identify positive responses to these emotions if you desire to move forward in life.
When experiencing shame, an Empathic Teachers first response is to brainstorm reasons. Why? Was it something I said? Should I have done something differently? They analyze, they experiment, they test different approaches, in the hopes of figuring out and learning more about what they appreciate, and what they dislike about themselves and others, and this process is highly important for Empathic Teachers, in order to build an identity and a relationship to themselves and others. They need to purge the things they don’t relate to – and to immerse themselves with the things they do like, and it is crucial that others do not judge or control them while they develop their taste and needs.
When experiencing fear or curiosity, an Empathic Teachers first response is to study, self-reflect on, and explain the things they are curious or fearful of. Asking an Empathic Teacher complex questions is a key strategy to getting them to get past their fears. You need them to define it and understand it, because when they can explain it, their fears quickly lose control over them. Empathic Teachers are instinctively driven to act on and make their beliefs and theories into reality. They are curious to test if their speculations are correct. Healthy ELs always have an idea, an answer, or a theory about how to proceed or how to move forward – no matter how complex the situation.
In relationships, healthy empaths value authenticity and honest expressions, striving to live up to their values and existential beliefs. Empaths tend to engage in various causes, working towards something which inspires them. They often daydream about travel, meeting new people, or going on some kind of adventure. Empaths often discuss values and existential issues with others, discussing how to live life. More negatively, unhealthy empaths can sometimes lie to or manipulate their partners, or they suspect their partners are lying or being inauthentic towards them. It’s important for empaths to go against their inner fears and to do things they dream about, as well as to engage in recreative activities or existential causes frequently, or their health in this area will drop.
Teachers help us prepare for what is to come. They make us feel safe, staying ahead of anything that’s happening. They seem to know us and what we will do better than anyone. But teachers sometimes postpone decisions for too long. They avoid voicing their needs to others, and they can be too secretive at times. It’s important for teachers to maintain their needs for staying ahead of the situation, by letting themselves have time to prepare and think ahead, in order to maintain healthy relationships.
The ideal pairing for an Empathic Teacher is with an Empathic Fighter.