We have found it to be true that there is an ideal relationship pairing in Neojungian Typology, but other relationships also have their interesting quirks, so allow us to explain the different relationship types.
Worldviews in relationships
Ideally, we should pursue a partner who has a similar worldview as our own. While they may not always have the same precise values or beliefs as our own, they are able to understand and motivate us, as well as to provide balance and critique when we are making the wrong choice.
Empathic - Empathic, Intellectual - Intellectual, Practical - Practical, Social - Social
In relationships where people share a similar worldview, we meet someone who can discuss and help us process our emotions, thoughts, values, and ideas. Because we share similar needs and interests, we require little compromise in these relationships, and we are able to work together to help each others with our problems. However, someon with an unhealthy worldview may have a competitive relationship with those who have a healthy worldview expression. The relationship can also have a competitive aspect, if people disagree on how to reach these needs, but this process can also help both involved parties improve their relationship to the worldview, helping both become more healthy and satisfied.
EX, EL & IX, IL,
ET, EF & ST, SF.
SX, SL & PX, PL.
PT, PF & IT, IF.
In relationships where people have to rely on their secondary worldview to communicate and understand each others needs, both partners tend to experience a drop of motivation and energy, while at the same time being able to look at each other's thoughts with heightened focus. This focus causes us to become critical of each others worldviews, values, and interests. The relationship can easily turn into an argumentative one, as a result, where both have critical input to offer the other on how to live life. As a result of the lack of motivation, it's hard for both parties to encourage each others to make changes and new decisions. After some time, people may get the idea the other partner isn't listening to them, causing both to learn to be extremely careful and precise when communicating with the other.
EX, EL & SX, SL,
ET, EF & IT, IF.
IX, IL & PX, PL.
PT, PF & ST, SF.
When we seek motivation, energy, and that extra push, we tend to pull the energy from people who have our tertiary worldview. Relationships with people of this worldview tend to be emotionally intense, feeding us with anger, joy, passion, and energy to move forward. The high energy comes at the price of making us become more scattered. We find it difficult to settle, to calm down, and to focus. We often people of these worldviews as 'enemies' or 'opponents', relying on them for energy to move forward at the expense of them.
Empathic - Practical, Intellectual - Social, Practical - Empathic, Social - Intellectual
These relationships require alot of compromise. We seek these relationships out when we want secure, stable partners. Because communication with people of our opposing worldview tends to be difficult, with some problems of miscommunication, we tend to become submissive in relation to our partner, adapting to any of their needs without question. This can be a success factor for these relationships, as we find someone who is open to our needs and desires. We tend to pursue these relationships when we feel our past relationships have been too intense and demanding. These relationships can also be good long-term choices.
Temperaments in relationships
Ideally, we should pursue relationships with people who have our opposing temperament. Leaders naturally tend to choose relationships with Explorers, while Teachers naturally tend to pick relationships with Fighters.
Relationships with Leaders
Leaders give us a sense of direction. They help us find a resolve and a goal. They make good mentors, helping us understand past events and decisions. We often consult them to understand problems we are facing. They help us make reality of plans and fantasies, pushing us in a direction. But leaders sometimes forget others have a free will, trying too hard to control others decisions and behavior. It's important for Leaders to maintain their need for direction, goals, as well as their need for understanding themselves and the choices they have made so far, in order to maintain healthy relationships with others.
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Relationships with Teachers
Teachers help us prepare for what is to come. They make us feel safe, staying ahead of anything that’s happening. They seem to know us and what we will do better than anyone. But teachers sometimes postpone decisions for too long. They avoid voicing their needs to others, and they can be too secretive at times. It’s important for teachers to maintain their needs for staying ahead of the situation, by letting themselves have time to prepare and think ahead, in order to maintain healthy relationships.
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Relationships with Explorers
Explorers keep our eyes open for changes and new possibilities. They inspire us to make changes. They test out different choices, helping us understand the consequences and possibilities of various decisions. But they sometimes disregard plans and agreements with others, sometimes trying too hard to avoid responsibility. It’s important for Explorers to have free, open relationships, which allow them to try new things.
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Relationships with Fighters
Fighters challenge us. They help push and motivate us to deal with problems in our immediate environment. They help us improve. They get us to support and back each other’s, and to stand up for those that are against us. But they sometimes push people too hard. They can become overly demanding, expecting too much from others. It’s important for Fighters to have productive relationships, which lead somewhere.
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